Reunions, be it either family or friends are a package of laughter, food, and a free trip to our embarrassing moments. There are some pretty common questions, that we have to answer at every reunion. Things, don’t settle with just answering those questions, people enjoy reminiscing their pasts, which can be sweet sometimes, but for the most part it is embarrassing. It is similar to scrolling back to read your facebook posts from your teenage.
At family reunions, the most famous, common and boring questions are the following:
- What are you studying?
- How are your grades?
- Where are you working?
- How much do you earn?
- When are you getting married?
- (If you are married) when are you going to have kids?
And the cycle continues again. The first question can be considered as being courteous, but why the second one. And for the second question, it doesn’t end with simply answering the question, we have to undergo being compared to their kids or others. I don’t understand why everyone does this, if they are doing this hoping that it would serve as a motivation to the other kids, then trust me you are going at it the wrong way.
Never compare kids with each other, rather than motivating them it only discourages them, moreover it might draft a distance between kids which is not good, it will also serve as an attack against their self-esteem. I am pretty sure, you didn’t intend or think of it as such, but be careful about how you treat your kids.
And now, the most irritating and frustrating question for every unemployed graduate out there. I am pretty sure, everyone wants to work but not everyone gets the opportunity, given so many factors. There are millions of graduates with only a few employment opportunities, and not everyone gets to do the job they want. Anything that provides self-satisfaction and earns the survival is a potential job(other than those that are illegal), so don’t look down on any work. Most importantly, if we are working then we will let you know before you even ask, so please spare us the humiliation.
Now the fourth question, I am sure you don’t think of it much but did you know it is no less than a privacy invasion to ask someone about their salary. There is a good amount of chance that people don’t mind answering this question but there are a few who don’t get paid as much as they work. They might be having unexplainable financial struggle or any other situation. It is rude to ask someone about their income when you don’t even know their circumstances.
Before we even start getting a grip of our career, we are shot at with this fifth question. Marriage is not a small festival that, we can go back to living our usual life after celebrating it for a couple od days. A lot of things change, and the changes only add. Of-course they add happiness, strength, love, support but they also add responsibilities. Moral responsibilities, financial responsibilities, adjustments and lot more. Those people who marry without preparing for this have to face shock’s, instead of surprise’s. So stop pressuring people into marriages, I am sure they’ll invite you if they are marrying anytime soon, so sit back and wait.
And now comes the ultimate question, “when are you going to have children?”, like I seriously want to ask the other person “what is it to you?”. It is not like they are going to help in bringing up the child, so why? Let the couple in question decide about their lives, by themselves. And like I keep saying, they will invite you to celebrate if they have a child.
Friends are no different from the family, they also ask the same questions, but they have different approaches and reasons. The first question is probably to collect information are to help decide on their own education. The second question, is not so common but in most cases they just use this information to playfully tease each other. The third question is a concern to the entire student race so most of the time they refrain from asking this question, but if there are only a few who are unemployed at the gathering, asking this question can serve as a humiliation. SO it is better to keep these conversations to minimum, when you are at reunions.
The fourth question, is no different from family, most of the time friends don’t ask this question but if you are asking this question, then I would like to let you know that you are being rude. The fifth question, is mostly asked in-contexts asking for parties or in a different way like “Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend”, and after the question we are teased irrespective of our answer.
The sixth question is also not common, but when it comes to friends these questions even though are irritating, the aftereffects are addictive. I mean, even when I am writing this, I end up asking my friends if they are getting married next year 😅.
PS: Let’s try to become innovative in 2019, with questions different from the above questions 🤭